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We teach our kids to respect adults and other children, and they should — respect is an important part of growing up to be a pretty great human. They can lead to anxiety, depression, physical illnesses and feelings of isolation. Children can end up blaming themselves and feeling guilt or shame. In fact, it will do damage. We all have an inner voice. When an adult is toxic, the risk is that the inner voice of the child will pick it up and make the words their own.
Children are born awesome.
Our job as the adults in their lives is to make sure they know this and to minimise the effect of anyone who might influence them to feel otherwise. We adults will get it wrong sometimes. Our kids will look to us for confirmation and validation of what the world is telling them. Toxic people can come in the form of teachers, coaches, relatives, parents their own and the parents of others and friends. The only thing anyone needs to be toxic is a mouth. The potential is in all of us.
Adults should be a source of support, safety and trust for children. At the very least, they should do no harm. When they are a source of shame, anxiety or stress, the risk to the child is too much to allow it to keep going. Kids need our permission and our guidance to being able close down to people who scrape against them continuously. Part of becoming a successful adult is learning to bounce back from these with the capacity to sustain relationships through disagreements and disappointments.
The line can be a blurry though. Toxic people are usually masters in the art subtlety and skilled at staying just behind-the-line-but-not really-but-kind-of. Fortunately, children are often skilled at picking up on when something — or someone — feels bad. Here are some things to watch out for. Here are some questions to guide you in your chat with them:. These questions are more for you. Your child might not be able to answer them directly but they are important ones to consider. The answers might be more likely to come up through observation, passing comments or in direct conversation with the adult in question ….
Kids are born with a beautifully intact sense of who they are. Sometimes it changes people forever. As parents, we are told to support teachers, coaches and other adults in the lives of our children and this is true — to a point. Sometimes that means openly naming unacceptable behaviour. When did it ever become more important to support an adult than to protect ? It can be a hard line to draw, and given the finesse with which toxic people have mastered the art of subtlety, it can also be a blurry one. Remember this though — you know your child, and you will know when something is changing them — the way they are, the way they see themselves.
What we can do though is give our kids independence of mind and permission to recognise that person and their behaviour as wrong. The kindness and respect we teach our children to show to adults should never be used against them by those broken adults who might do harm.
This article was reprinted with my permission on The Good Men Project. This was a very thoughtful and well written article! I wish that my mother could have read this when I was growing up. She allowed my stepfather to inflict verbal and emotional abuse for years. He is an extremely toxic person and sadly, he ruined my life in many ways. To all the parents out there reading this…please beware of adults around your kids who might harm them emotionally, verbally and otherwise. My mother saw the harm that was being done to me and she did absolutely nothing about it.
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