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Last week I exchanged s with a man who has spent the past month trying to save his marriage. He told me about a long conversation with his wife about going through with divorce. Do you know what she told him? To her, it felt like all he ever did was work and drink, so those must be the only things he loved.
Putting effort into romancing your wife and maintaining a deep romantic connection is the best way to safeguard your marriage against future crisis. Just like maintaining a working car is different than fixing a broken down car, so is maintaining a happy marriage versus fixing a broken one. Still, I encourage you to read through these ideas, and perhaps a time will come when you get to apply them to your marriage.
There is a reason I put this first. How you spend your time is one of the single most important parts of what makes you a good husband and leader. Unfortunately, many times what starts as a few weeks or months stretches into a year or longer, and eventually the wife has felt so neglected for so long that she gets fed up.
If you absolutely have to work so much that you literally cannot put enough time in with your wife, find some other way to make her feel wanted and prioritized. The less time you have available, the more important the time that you do spend with her becomes. Something to that effect. Not only should you praise your wife more than you criticize her, it should FEEL to her like you are a much more positive leader than a critical one.
Most of us are natural judgers. Not rocket science! These are the obvious ones, but your bad habit may not be so apparent. Other common bad habits or extreme distractions, if you want to call it that, that men fall into include:. Again, chances are that you have already felt a little inkling in the back of your mind telling you to get these bad habits under control.
You cannot lead your marriage if you have no self-control. The gist of the article is that this guy, like so many husbands, was happy to leave all of the domestic duties to his wife. His wife constantly asked him to clean up his dishes instead of leaving them in the sink to be done later. He never did, and one day she filed for divorce.
It was because of the message that sent to her every single time he chose to ignore what she asked. I am more important than you. In a way, this is just another iteration of the very first point. How you spend your time says so much about you as a husband and a leader. The point is, how you spend your time shows your wife how you value hers. Obviously, my wife loves encouragement and complements, but for her, the kind gestures and little non-romantic surprises matter a lot oh, you did the dishes when it was my turn! Thank you! While my wife appreciated this, over time we both realized that taking on extra domestic duties actually meant more to her and relieved more stress from her everyday life.
It meant a lot more to her for me to make a grocery list and cook dinner than it did for me to finish work early and give her an extra hour to herself. This is an example of doing the right things in the wrong direction. For us, it was an easy fix. Over time, pay attention to what your wife responds to. What things truly make her day? Figure out what really makes your wife feel loved and valued, and do more of those things.
Honestly, this is just the standard communication advice. Listen more, talk less. I spend a huge portion of my day to day helping men with their marriage, so I am always thinking about relationships and examining my own relationship. Not so! I still have to remind myself to put the phone down, mute the TV, look at my wife and really listen and engage with her during conversation.
All that much more important that you are truly engaged in devoting your full attention to your wife every minute that you are together. I listened to a CEO talk about leadership, and he recounted his first experience running a big company. He thought of himself as a very good leader and he had a very sharp mind for business. However, over time, the people below him stopped coming to him with new ideas.
One of the most dangerous side effects of being too controlling is that it tells your wife that you do not respect her.
It tells her that you are too prideful, that your way is always better. Even when she has a good idea, you will find something to nitpick about it. Many men struggle with being too controlling. If this is you, if your wife has ever told you that you are controlling, then listen up.
This point is very important in rebuilding and maintaining a connection with your wife. Especially if you have a controlling or dominant personality, it is extremely important that you learn to take responsibility for your mistakes, admit when you are wrong and she is rightand just say yes to her sometimes. These two things — owning your mistakes and saying yes — go hand-in-hand because they are the two most difficult things for a controlling person to do.
Sometimes, even if there is a better way out there, you have to bite the bullet and just say yes. Husbandly leadership goes beyond your marriage and into your family. Investing yourself in the family is adjacent to investing yourself in the marriage, and the two often go hand in hand. If you have kids, one of the single best ways you can romance your wife is to step up your game as a dad.
Make your wife proud of the father that you are. If this is you — if your marriage is on the rocks and you need to turn things around ASAP, then the best starting point for you will be the 9 Essential Traits of a Good Husband. This quick guide will walk you through even more ways to step up as a husband and both stop creating distance in your marriage and start the journey back to romantic connection with your wife. I'm Stephen, the guy behind Husband Help Haven. I'm not a marriage counselor or a lawyer, I'm just a guy on the Internet who has talked to a loooooot of men going through separation Over 2, in the past 5 years.
My goal is to give men the tools they need to save their marriage from separation. here. How do you romance your wife? How do you make sure your wife feels loved and valued? How do you rebuild the connection that keeps a man and a woman happily together forever?
What are some practical ways to do this? Say I love you Take her on surprise dates Compliment her looks, make her feel attractive Do favors Leave her love notes Spend quality time with her Always seek to learn more about her Not rocket science! Some common examples that I have seen severely damage the marriage include: Drinking Drugs, commonly smoking weed Porn These are the obvious ones, but your bad habit may not be so apparent. Other common bad habits or extreme distractions, if you want to call it that, that men fall into include: Way too much time on video games or YouTube Way too much time on fantasy football, or some other hobby like that Eating out too much, or spending too much money online Spending too much time on Facebook and other social media Allowing yourself to spend too much time at work for too long Being too critical or controlling Again, chances are that you have already felt a little inkling in the back of your mind telling you to get these bad habits under control.
Now, was the reason she divorced him really because he left dishes by the sink? The reality is, nobody is perfect, and nobody is always right. Marriage Struggling? Want To Go Deeper? Many of the men who read husband help haven are facing imminent crisis in their marriage.
Whatever you do from here, thanks for reading and as always… Much manly love, — Stephen.How to be more romantic for my wife
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